Marriage is most beautiful and followed custom of human race. It is followed and practiced in each country, religion and community. Though customs could be different, but basic agenda is to unite two human beings in a life long bonding of love, trust and care.
Isn’t that beautiful? Before getting married, specially if it is a arranged marriage; everyone browse thru lots of profiles to find out that perfect partner.What if you choose a partner but not sure whether s/he is perfect or not? What does marrying the wrong guy look like?
I have seen so many marriages failing. So many dreams shattered within months of marriage, why? Just because we think marriage is so rosy, we think being with the man we love is the only thing that is important that we ignore so many signs that you can say God gives us or whatever you may call it.
Here are few signs which you should alert you. These signs will help you to choose a loving and caring partner, whom you can trust for life long.
Phones Switched Off
You are dating this guy from quite some time now. He is a nice person and take good care of you whenever you are around. He shows lots of affection and promises to be by your side, whenever required. But he has a bad habit of switching his phone during evening and night hours.
Time when you wants to be in touch with him after a long working hours. You asked her to many times to stop switching off his phone. But he still switched it off without giving any valid reasons. He would even use anger as a defence to stop you from further questioning him.
I am sure he is not the perfect guy to trust for a life long relationship. He might says that he loves you, but love without care is nothing.
They say that you can know a person by the company they have. Friends have the greatest influence on our lives. So it is important to know what kind of friends does your boyfriend have? How they behave with women and at peoples at public places, what habits do they posses. Not necessary that your partner too have those bad habits or behavior, but yes that can surely affect your relationship. Hence choose your partner wisely.
Is he a pathological liar? Do you catch him lying frequently for silly reasons and you ignore it because it’s not such a big deal and you love him? A person who is not trustworthy can wreck you for a lifetime and cause you to lose faith for good. My sister always warned me to not give my heart to the wrong guy because when the right guy comes I may not be able to trust him because my faith in love may have been destroyed by then!
Drinking is not harmful and most people like to enjoy a drink over a conversation here and there with friends and colleagues. However for someone who likes to be intoxicated most of the times and waits for every evening to get drunk; you must beware of such men. Not because they are bad, but because they don’t have direction in life. A man who has no direction, will most likely not take you in the right direction. Don’t try to be their Saviour! The best way you can save them is to leave them, that desertion may get them to their senses. If it doesn’t, you must be thankful much that you left them. Because men who can’t stay level headed after a break up may not be able to face future failures too.
Not too keen on your family
Last but not the least; a responsible man would always want to involve your family in your life. He would always advice you on respecting your parents and their views. He is someone who will agree that parents can be baseless but still deserves our honor.
A man who shows more than two of the above symptoms must be scrutinized well. Believe me when I say this, today you may think that everything will be fine after marriage. But if it is not fine after 2 years of dating or longer, it is not going to be any better after marriage. On the contrary it might get worse. Do him and yourself a favor, move on! Life is heaven when you marry the right man. While marrying wrong guy can make your life hell.
One wrong move can alter the whole course of your life and divorce is not an easy thing to go through! Avoid the fuss and enjoy this beautiful life with positive, responsible and well meaning people!